Here is David Brooks speaking that "within each of us are two selves: the self who craves success, who builds a résumé, and the self who seeks connection, community, love -- the values that make for a great eulogy. Can we balance these two selves? Perhaps, once we know them both..." (from You Tube)
Here is also a critique of David Brooks and his book on this topic:
I like what Brooks has to say and before I give too much credit to the critique, I'll read his book this summer and decide myself.